It’s simple, just not easy.
“You help people by:
Helping them simplify.
Setting them up to win.
You set the table for them to prove to themselves they CAN.
From there it’s utilizing momentum from their wins to feed the expression of their intrinsic desires.
Then, (consistent) Encouragement & Accountability.”
-Ray Zingler on X
You always hear:
“You can’t want it for somebody, they have to want it for themselves!”
And I’m not disagreeing with the statement.
What I disagree with is the people who cheaply throw that statement around as if they are in some way, shape, or form, “better” than those who may not be equipped with know how to get what they “want for themselves”.
You know how to help yourself?
Awesome.
But your life and mine are only valuable if we use our strengths, skills, and resources to help others.
So instead of writing that person off who you assume “doesn’t want it”, why don’t you try your best to show them how?
Why don’t you be a catalyst for their growth and not a detriment?
How do you do it, though?
It’s actually very simple.
Easy? No.
Simple? Yes.
You first start by acknowledging the person, listening to them, and sharing your belief in them and then you go right to simplifying for them and setting them up to win.
“I want to get in better shape, but I don’t know what to do, where to start, and I don’t have time.”
Got it.
Everybody has 5 minutes.
“We’re going to start with walking 5 minutes per day.”
Boom. Simple and winnable.
And after each 5-minute daily walk we’re going to have them put a green checkmark on their calendar.
Why? From 8 to 80, people love rewards. Rewards feed the positive feedback loop.
And what happens after 2 days? Nothing.
22 days? Nothing.
But what happens after 71 days?
All the sudden they start believing in themselves.
Why?
Because now they have proof of concept of not necessarily “achieving their end goal” but proof of concept of “being a doer”.
They have casted enough votes for “the person who can achieve”.
From there, you simply utilize the momentum THEY have generated through their consistency to fan the flame of their intrinsic desires.
117 days in, “they want it for themselves” now.
And now it’s your job to encourage them, hold them accountable, and help them slowly dose rigor to get to where they want to go.
And the art to all of it:
Take ZERO credit for any of THEIR success.
That’s how you change a life.
