It is the only way true personal freedom is acquired.
“ ‘Resentment is like taking poison, and waiting for the other person to die.’
-Malachy McCourt
You want to win?
Forgive others.
You want to win big?
Sincerely clap for them, too.
Losers hold grudges & stay jealous.
Making yourself unoffendable is a superpower.”
-Ray Zingler on X
Working with middle school and high school kids for a living, as you’d probably assume, I hear my fair share of petty drama pretty frequently.
And by pretty frequently I mean, multiple times per hour, every single hour, every single day.
As much as I understand they are kids and are still growing and maturing, I try very hard to explain to them that talking negatively talking about others, disliking others, and even hating others does absolutely nothing to improve their own circumstance.
I even ask them, “what good is it doing for you?”
The answers, after I work with them to help them piece their words together, always come back with a temporary feeling of justice for their feelings, but never end with any potential of sustainable personal benefit.
But again, they are kids and I don’t expect them to fully get it right now, my hope is that one day as they mature, they will learn that judging, resenting, or hating on others will never do anything to improve their own quality of life.
One day it is my hope that it will click and they will start acting like adults.
Unfortunately, I must laugh at my own joke as our modern adults are often worse about this stuff than our kids.
Many adults are nothing more than immature kids trapped in adult bodies.
Don’t believe me? Go watch a little league baseball game, listen to a side conversation at a party, or watch an adult when their order accidentally gets botched at a restaurant.
It’s wild to me that people still allow people to rent space in their brains for free.
I thought everybody was “so busy these days?”
If you want to win, forgiveness is not a good idea, it’s a non-negotiable rule.
If you lead a life harboring any resentment or ill will towards another, where on earth are you going to find time to be the best version of yourself?
You won’t.
Forgive.
Then, take it a step further. Recognize that person you’re forgiving, (who still has no control over you, your success, or your failure) and clap for them.
Practice the abundance mindset. Once it’s engrained into your psyche, it’s game over.
Making yourself unoffendable is a superpower unlike any other.
